Reluctant Blog Post 4

I was talking with a friend of mine about honesty the other day. This is a friend who has a very black and white view of the world and was adamant that a lie of omission is still a lie. I disagreed. I remember my younger sister once saying some very hurtful things to me, because she "knew I valued honestly and forthright speech." I do, but I've also realized that there are some things that just should never be spoken and that honesty should be tempered with compassion. If someone is running around with a giant hole in their pants and the whole world is getting a view of their undies, while it might be embarrassing, you should tell the person about the hole, so she can change pants. On the other hand, if someone has really ugly feet, while this may be true, telling the person that his feet are ugly isn't helpful. The person can't change his feet and nothing constructive can come of drawing attention to his feet. I'd even argue there are some instances where a lie is important, "no, sir, I am not hiding escaped slaves in my pantry"...so, while, yes, it's good to be as truthful as possible, I think it's more important to be mindful of your words and the power they hold. Wield them for joy and happiness, not harm.