829: Flea Bath

I never saw my grandparents when they were dying. They just went from being old to being deceased in my perspective. I don't regret this, it's just I've never thought about how I would say goodbye to someone who was dying. Over the weekend I went to a friend's children's birthday party. As with every time I visit her, I took a few minutes to pay my respects to the extremely elderly woman they live with. It's a symbiotic relationship, where they live rent free and the woman gets to continue to live in her house, not a nursing home. She's been getting increasingly frail and discontent with her situation, which at 96 isn't that surprising. I wouldn't have been surprised to find out she passed away, but I was shocked to instead find her dying. I don't know all the circumstances, but her one son who is still alive tricked her into not getting the shot that regulates her red blood count and got her hospice care. When I saw her she was unable to move and it took minutes for her to muster up the strength to answer a question. I was horrified. With cats and dogs when they hit that point, you take them to the vet to be put out of their misery, how we can be so cruel to humans I do not know. I cried for her, because I didn't know what else to do and I recalled all the times we'd visited. I showed her how slim The Quiet Baby, as she calls my son, had gotten that her fears he would grow up fat could be put to rest. I told her how my husband and I hoped within a year or two to have a second child and I thanked her for the opportunity to have gotten to know her a little bit. I didn't not know what else to say, but in the ways of all things with toddlers, this dramatic goodbye was not our last interaction. He ran over to her an hour later to show her the baby doll he'd found, so I ended up in conversation again. I asked her if there was anything I could do for her? "Come back." Was there anything I could bring her? "The baby". So I said I'd try to see her on the following Friday. "Who knows?" It was very sad, but I'm glad that I could pay my respects all the same.