Reluctant Blog Post 1

This morning my son had a freak out when we arrived at børnehave, because we came at the same time as one of his classmates and she was holding the door open for him. He was adamant that gate is supposed to be shut and distressed she was holding it open while we got out of the bike. He was mainly recovered by the time we walked into the nursery school and I explained the situation to his pedagog who chuckled softly and said "Oh he's having one of his autism days." It's been clear for months now that he is neurologically atypical. We're waiting till his Danish is better to formally test him, but he has these OCD moments, he hyper concentrates on things that leads to poor eye contact, he has prosopagnosia and isn't great at social cues...but what I love is that it doesn't feel like a stigma here. He's quirky, he has special needs, but it isn't like it's this world changing, devastating disability. For all that he has personality traits that are going to make his life more difficult, he also has many that will help him thrive. His hyper focus is great for work productivity. His OCD ties into an impressive attention to detail. A friend of mine who also has prosopagnosia was saying how extroverts with this face blindness tend to be charming, because one of the coping mechanisms is just treat everyone like they are your best friends, since it takes too much effort to tell people apart. His love of big words, numbers and shapes, comes from his desire for precision and specificity, which means he's very good at communicating and seeing his world in a mathematical manner. I ran into a crazy anti-vaxxer evangelist recently, who aside from not comprehending germ theory, tried to give me the long debunked argument that vaccines cause autism. Even if that was true, which it absolutely is not, I am offended that anyone would think being paralyzed by polio or blinded by measles or potentially killed by whooping cough was better than autism.